Here lately I have been recieving a freaking ton of emails about being single. I’m not talking about little happy go lucky emails. It’s like someone has gone and signed me up on every online dating site they can possibly think up and now? All of a sudden? There is this guy who is 28 who lives 6 miles away and he is interested in me. And then there are those other guys from those other sites who (I am betting money don’t even exitst) have a gajillion things in common with me. Well that’s fantastic PerfectChemistrySinglesYahoo!.com. BUT I AM NOT INTERESTED RIGHT NOW.
I am taking a sabbatical. Leave me alone for sabbaticals are holy. And also? Even if I did want to date right now, I wouldn’t want to date someone who has every.little.thing in common with me. If I wanted someone like me, I would go over to that one place where they cloned a sheep and I would tell them to clone me. Now.
And whoever passed out my email, if I find out who you are, you better hope I don’t have your email address. I’ll do much more than sign you up for online dating sites and information. You’ll be getting some nasty gross gang banging horses crap coming into your inbox! I don’t know if that exists, but it’s the internet. Everything exists in the internet.
Also. I was just sitting here watching Wheel of Fortune (IT’S SHOE POLISH, PEOPLE!) and this commercial came on. The dude goes something like this:
“Do people around you think that being single is a negative thing? Do you get tired of being alone? Aren’t there good things about being single? YES! You have the opportunity to focus on yourself and God without any distractions! That’s why (insert church name that rhymes with smicktory here) has come up with a Singles Worship Night!”
Ok.
So.
I am a Believer. I love my relationship with God. I know that I am extremely blessed and I would not be at this awesome point in my life if it weren’t for His goodness. For His love. I am in awe of His grace. I know that I constantly screw up, and I am constantly falling flat on my face. But with that I realize that without Him, I would be nothing. I would be screwing up all the time and falling flat on my face, only to be too weak to get myself back up again. This is how I choose to live my life. I don’t believe it is my place to push these beliefs on other people. I don’t think that I am right and you are wrong if you disagree. I refuse to thump people in the head with a Bible. But I do believe that it is my job to love people. It is my job to keep my heart open and soft so that I am capable of being compassionate. And that job is my favorite thing about life. The fact that we were created to love and to be loved. Pretty sure it doesn’t get much better than that.
Now. With that said, I hope that what I am about to say does not make me look like an absolute horrible person. It’s just something I don’t understand…. so if you understand it, please enlighten me. Why do you think this is necessary??
IF being single is a time where you can focus on just you and God (which I agree with. Being single can be a HUGE blessing!), WHY IN THE WORLD would you want to go worship solely with other single people? No couples allowed! Does that not come across as someone looking to remedy the loneliness in their life? That’s ok! If you are lonely and you are ready to date, then go date! Go find someone to build a relationship with! But please, don’t go around saying “I LOVE BEING SINGLE! I WOULDN’T CHANGE IT FOR THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD!” only to turn around and use a worship service as a crutch. Because if you are, then I will bet that at some point, while you are singing and lifting your hands in worship, that instead of worshiping God like you claim to be doing, you are actually wondering if the hot guy behind you thinks you have a cute butt.
That’s what I don’t get. Don’t lie about the fact that you hate being single. Just admit it. I have learned in my own life that when I walk around with pride and the “whatever I don’t need that anyway” attitude, God smacks me in the face. I don’t want to be smacked in the face. I would rather just be honest and cry to Him about it.
But that’s just me.
And right now, I am happy to be single (except for when I have to carry tons of groceries into my apartment alone, and then I don’t like it so much).
So there’s that.
And this!! An awesome music video I found!! YAY! (Guaranteed to make you dance)
Now, if you’ll excuse me. I am going to go make mac n cheese and fishsticks. This is something I can get away with only because I am single.
I think they send those singles emails to everyone, but only us single people feel singled out. Ha ha get it?!
I can be happy both ways honestly. I am very independant so I do well on my own. I only have to live life by my rules.
If I met the right person though I’m certain I could be just as happy as part of a couple. I’m just not sure that person exists for me.
Cheers!
I completely agree. One time I went on a very awkward second date with a dude who started asking me about marriage. On the second date. When I told him I would be just fine without it, it was like I punched him in the face….Then he brought up children and the conversation went even further downhill from there. Needless to say, there was never a third date after that haha.
love this post. I’m married and I’m not a big fan of singles ministries. (or most “life stage” ministries). Segmenting people away from each other based on age, marital status (single, married, divorced, widowed) at first seems like a good idea, but it’s jacked up. Because if I only hang out with married people all the time (read: 30 something married with kids) then my world will be warped, sick, and unhealthy. Plus, and this is the kicker for churches, If I am segmented off from other folks in this way, my view of God changes and gets jacked up too. I need single people in my life to be who I was created to be just like I need older people and younger people.
Just a thought.
thanks!
Mark,
I am so glad I am not the only one. I was involved in a youth ministry one time where I wanted to get the kids involved with the older generation. There is so much that each age group can share with each other. This didn’t fly well with the church I was working for and it really just baffled me. Why do we want to surround ourselves with people just like us? It doesn’t make sense to me.
Thanks for your input! I really appreciate it!
That is amazing that starting a blog has introduced you to many more interesting people than joining a singles site. Seems like a combination of singles sites and blog writing would be a mix that would lead to many dates.
Are YOU the one who sent my email address to all those sites!?!? Ha, just kidding! I just want to make sure people know that I am totally all for online dating. I mean, you have to be careful and all…. and personally I don’t think it’s for me. But what the heck? If you think it’s cool, go for it. It’s worth a shot, right?